You don’t have to be anti social to play bfa. That’s player, not game. Nothing in the game forces you to take the anti-social route. I socialise plenty via communities where I manually find groups just like “the good ole days” people prattle on about like they’re impossible to do anymore because the LFG tool exists.
Vanilla/classic does not make people social. People will play the game but it doesn’t make them social. They’ll be silent in dungeons and only say what they have to. This wierd rhetoric that groups in vanilla were full of banter and chatter and lifelong friends is false. Some groups sure, not all. Many were talking to get the group up and running and then bare minimum just to establish tactics or check something in dungeon, much like now.
Games can’t make people social. They can have a structure that benefits from people being social, but that doesn’t mean you’re made social by playing the game. The fact that I talk to my postman whenever they greet me cordially doesn’t make me a sparkling conversationalist at all. It’s the same principle, yet people act like classics login screen makes everyone all happy and social and stuff. And bfas opposite. If all of your groups in bfa have a sour social vibe, maybe it’s not the game that’s the problem.
Also, you’re doing that thing where you’re conflating time consuming with effort. Stuff In classic took ages to work towards. Time =/= effort (except pvp because it combined both) . If I have to attend a raid for 3 months where I spam 1 button and that’s it, when I get my drop is that effort? Not sure I’d use that word. Dedication? Yeah maybe. Not effort. Effort is work, hard work. Something that taxes me as an individual that some people may lack and some will share. Not taxes my ability to sit my backside In Front of a computer longer than anyone else.
Now if I want top end gear in bfa, I have to get my backside in mythic+ and mythic raids which actually require me to do something beyond pressing 1 button else the group is gonna kick me faster than you can count.
This illusion that you can get full 450+ gear via titan forged wq drops and it happens oh-so-frequently needs to die. You can get epix and blue drops from killing boars in classic some of which are bis. That’s luck based too but nobody seems to try to fathom an argument that you can get bi’s epic via luck in classic. When the chances of getting such a thing are probably higher than having a 380 item TF to 450 with a socket, and yet people talk about it like it happens every Tuesday.
Not everything in classic was “time sync sans skill”. Pvp, as mentioned, was both. But honestly look at raids now and then. I mean really?
Is gathering 40 people together at the same time all of whom have spent hours farming brainlessly to get certain mats, is that really hard raiding? Or is that time consumption? So does epics from said raid really represent a higher degree of player skill than epics from bfa higher raid tiers and mythic+? I’d argue no.