After creating a character on the “mega-server” Living Flame @ SoD, I realised that the part of the community I so strongly try to avoid is overrepresented and sometimes leak in to my field of vision.
I dont mind people playing this game like it’s a solo game, like they are the center of the universe and the main character of the Warcraft-saga, but every once and a while they direct their frustration towards the people around them and by the time any chance for a constructive chat is gone and they have already created a toxic environment.
Ive experienced it a couple of times now, enought to react on it, but for the love of God could you change the ignore function so people >can’t< just dump a letter of frustration on you, name-calling and insults included, and then ignore you.
If they feel entitled enough to dump a bag of crap on me, I feel like I atleast should be able to reply them and remind them about their manners. The system now allows you to be toxic towards anybody without a cost.
For as long as i can remember it’s always worked like that. Not saying it should work that way though.
Probally the best thing to do is not reply back. If you feel their behaviour is out of line then just report them and move on. If you repsond to someone like that you may well just end up aggravating them more and it could come back on you as they might report you.
In both cases the players tried to take advantage of either my very-soon-to-be tag (by “ninja tagging” harder mobs/named mobs from stealth in hopes I’d help with damage) or letting me kill the named mob (while not helping me) while I invited for a group to share the spoils.
In these specific situations, but far from all during my adventures, these people didnt seem to have any interest in accepting or offering a group in order for both of us to get it done - something I encourage and offer at any given quest that can be shared.
When things didnt go their way, I couldnt read minds or where simply I myself died in the process, I was met with verbal abuse in a whisper, followed by a ignore.
That “snappy comeback” reveals how YOU would handle the situation. For me it would be a chance to ask where the missunderstanding was and if this player needs help. Not everything is about beeing the “king on the hill”, and I feel that the very mindset is what causes players to rather lash out/vent on their surroundings than have a conversation about it.
I agree that in many cases that perhaps would be the case - but theiy as verbal abusers fired their shots already - so the harm is done to anybody not wanting part of this.
My point is that during situations where people acually can reach out and say “Hey, I missunderstood you//Do you need help?//Ill stick around and help you” it can often be solved, which is something one should expect from a social game played by mostly adults. Not a system that allows safe spaces for toxic people to reenforce their view that “Ill crap on everybody around me without beeing questioned”-
I don’t disagree with you. Unfortunately some people just don’t work like that, they would rather throw an insult or whatever then place you on ignore. They have no interest in a solution.
It works both ways though, that person could have reached out to you instead of being instantly vulgar.
If someone has ignored you then you don’t get to reply to them, it would defeat the purpose of ignore if you could still /w them
You can report other players if they are abusing you before they ignore. If they’ve put you on ignore, it’s probably best you can’t reply anyway. Nothing good will come of it.
Sounds like the mentality of a teenager. Don’t be right, be smart. Just ignore them back, and if they break the rules report them. Don’t give them ammunition to report you.
I thought of something similar.
Plus, if I whisper back, now I can’t ignore them.
But there is one point at least, sometimes people dump and ignore without a reason.
Having the ability to reconcile can help.
That said, the other 98% it’s just kindergarten mode and as you say, pointless.
One thing, though. Whispering then ignoring should trigger a self-report for abusive chat. The ignore is really there to avoid the consequences of dumping the message.
anyways i dont see the problem in this ops case, someone has put him on ignore and he would like to reply them anyway, that would defeat the purpose of blocking someone. there is addon that doesnt show you whispers outside from your friends and gives the whisperer msg informing them that you cant receive any msg from them but in case they say something that violates tos it gets reported by it. maybe something like this could be of use for op.
I get it’s it’s frustrating that someone else got the last say and essentially a mic drop with no comeback but no it shouldn’t cause a self report. It’s not abusive.
If they say something abusive then by all means report the things they said. They won’t disappear from your view.
No no, I love it when people get angry enough at me to ignore me, then send me a little “.” soon after to check if I’m as bothered as they are and returned the ignore.
