WoW, by it’s nature, it’s a toxic game. Doesn’t matter the realm you play, you always will meet toxic people.
Due the fact that WoW is a highly competitive game and that there are addons that add more toxicity to the game (like Rio or dps meters), people will always be mean with other people. Even in real life, you see a lot of toxicity, so seeing this in a game is nothing new.
For example, once i joined a random guild. Then one day, a guy who just joined and started the game at that time, asked how is the deal with conquest points. If he starts mid season, can he get the previous weeks rewards or only the forward weeks. A officer answered that if he started mid season, he can’t get anymore the previous weeks rewards. Obviously that info was wrong, you can catch-up conquest points and get the weekly rewards until the current week. So i contradicted him in guild chat. What a mistake… : he started to curse me, call me idiot and noob and kicked me from guild.
So, people can get angry, toxic and abuse power, even when they are wrong.
People lost the sense of unity. They lost the sense of cooperative work and everything revolves on individuality. You won’t see people gathering to do Glory achievements, to help each other, to work as one for the common good of the community/guild, you won’t see kindness, and so on. You will only see people that do something only in exchange for profit (usually gold).
Even the forum is full of toxic people. If someone starts a post and complains about a issue, usually the first 2-3 replies are something like this: “if you don’t like the game, don’t play it” .
If you’re a solo player, without real friends that play the game, no matter the realm you join, you will have hard life. Yes, you will meet nice and kind people, but they are a very small percentage (maybe 10% at max).
Both realm are quite populated. So it doesn’t matter which one you join.
The ques are long in any realm you play. I transfered my char from Twisting Nether to Tarren Mill and now to Draenor. It doesn’t matter the realm you join, you will wait quite a while to join a que. For a HC dungeon que you can wait between 5 min and even 30 min. For LFR you wait at least 10-15 min until one hour. For arenas you wait around 5 min (these are the quickest ques). For random BG you wait between 10 min and even 1 hour. If you plan to que for a specific BG, especially the large ones, i suggest to give up. You can wait between 20-30 min to even 2hours. Basically the minimum time is during the evening time of the server and the maxed time is during “sleeping hours” (that’s between 00:00 and 08:00 morning).
This is caused by a huge decrease in total WoW population. I remember back in Legion i was frustrated that i can’t complete world quests because there where so many players doing the same quest. Now, in BFA, when you go on maps, for example Voldun or any map, you barely see 2-3 players doing the same quest. WoW lost in BFA at least 50-60% of it’s Legion population. You don’t need to be a nuclear scientist to see this.
So that’s why the ques are quite long.