I am Bi myself! I would say that most of my characters I roleplay are some form of LGBTQIA+ at this point. It varies a bit from character to character, but it has generally felt natural for me.
Vixi herself is not very focused on romance and probably more ace than anything, but she would otherwise be interested in women romantically if she would pay attention.
As for improvements and things I have noticed in the past year, I would say that I think AD in general has gotten more open about queer characters or people being openly LGBTQIA+ or feeling safer to be. I think the increase of people putting âLGBTQIA+ friendlyâ or similar terms in TRPâs and just a more general open nature has helped with that.
Granted, it also has been an increase of the phobes of various variety being more vocal and bolder, but I have also seen a larger pushback against those who are, and the number of them has seem to decreased. Itâs just that they are a bit more louder.
I think what would I like to see more in the future is just more people feeling safe to express themselves and be who they are, both in roleplay and as themselves out of character!
G for hugs and holding hands but A for anything beyond. (Homoromantic Asexual)
Most of mine are - theyâre usually some form of bisexual or asexual though rather than homâos or h*tero. I donât tend to pursue relationships in-character all too often so it doesnât come into effect particularly often though.
Mostly good, honestly! I think I joined at around the time where a lot of the needlessly edgelordy misogynist nonsense (and accompanying homophobic sentiments) were still a thing but itâs become less and less so the longer Iâve been around.
While I said above that things have gotten better (and they have), itâs not gone and itâs more like itâs changed - you wonât see people being actively homophobic or transphobic, at least not most of the time - but you do see people repeatedly disliking the races that conveniently happen to attract a lot of queer folk to them. Granted, not everyone who has a criticism towards dracthyr, vulpera, or void elves is a 'phobe or bigot - there are things to criticise about those races and some of the characters people make of those - but they do feel disproportionately targeted compared to the more traditionally âmasculineâ races.
In terms of harassing players directly, thatâs largely a thing of the past I think. Most guilds wonât keep someone around if that someone is actively harrassing minority groups.
Happy pride to everyone.
As someone who came out this year as Transfemme and was prior in a same sex relationship with someone who was also Bi I would certainly think I am.
My experiences on the server have been mixed. Ive never been personally on the receiving end of any harrassment over being such here (mostly, there was someâŚdifferences in treatment when I came out as bi a decade ago.) but in recent years theyve been positive and well received, a few bad apples on the forums and the server notwithstanding.
What to me has improved is the fact the server has become increasingly hostile to anyone who thinks its okay to parade their bigotry as though thats something to be proud of. Its never felt safer to be yourself on this server really I think.
Id like to see that continue. Id like to see the server continue to be safer for everyone to play on. Its a cruel world out there currently. Kindness among our shared hobby is the least we can show each other in the end of the day. Weâre all just people of different stripes finding common ground in a love of writing and roleplaying.
I have an ace character and a transfem character.
I am genderfluid / nonbinary!
I donât have much to say for the other questions, but a memory that stuck with me when I drifted away from WoW for a while in about 2016ish to play FFXIV was that I noticed was that the community there had a very different energy - with RP especially. People were just way more open and positive about being LGBT+, whereas in WoW at the time it wasnât uncommon for people to complain both IC and OOC that all women in Stormwind were lesbians, among other weird takes.
In more recent years it feels like that old grey cloud has lifted. I feel like there are way more openly gay and queer characters around, too.
Want to know if your guild is a safe environment for LGBT folks?
Ask your guild leader to say: âTrans Rights are Human Rightsâ in their guild channel/discord, not just in private.
Good outcome: They are happy to say it, protecting your trans homies. Neutral outcome: They ask why but do it nonetheless. Maybe they arenât quite aware how to handle this, all fair. Bad outcome: They ask why, wonât do it, start to tell you it doesnât fit the place. May accuse you of being a troublemaker or pushing an agenda, act as a victim as if you force them to do things.
Itâs quite fool proof, even if they lie and say it to please you, and reveal themselves to be transphobic later, you can pinpoint their lie/hypocrisy. Good to take a screenshot with context.
This also works for any online community you want to check. Iâm doing it from time to time, easy to reveal whoâs on your side and whoâs not.
Overall positive?
Outside a few encounters, I honestly cannot say that Iâve had bad experiences on the server or the community discords.
Iâve made so many new friends, got involved with so many events and Discords.
Like, itâs overwhelming sometimes
Only concern I have is still how Vulpera are perceived, and that despite organising and attending events, itâs very hard to break the stereotype.
As a male into males, yes. I wouldnât do disingenuity by playing anything else. I wouldnât expect a het to play something they have no experience in, and vice versa. A square peg does not fit into a circle and all that.
In terms of RP or in terms of proclivities and identity?
The former mixed, both very good and very bad, though the latter mercifully not as much as some naysayers would like to convince us all otherwise.
The latter? Iâve had absolutely nothing but the most pleasant and supportive people, both fellow LGBT folk and cis / het allies alike for the mosty part.
Aside from one glaringly obvious group of players that I donât really need invoke their moniker for, we all know who the JK Rowling adjacent sorts of the server are.
Iâd say nothing spectacularly amazing or terrible either way, but more trending towards more awareness of human sexuality and expression of gender identity is always a good thing, no matter the outcomes from exploring such.
Not so much change but more promoting a trend of understanding and harmony over divisiveness, hysteria and clannishness. These things are petty enough as they are offline but for them to bubble up needlessly online because big heads and bigger egos canât simply act like adults when the veneer of anonymity is around them is really telling about a personâs true nature.
Weâre all people at the end of the day, which I think gets lost behind tempers and wounded pride (pun not intended ).
Never had any issues personally, with being gay on AD. Weâve had the general phobe appear, sure. But Iâve never been singled out.
As a server weâve always been relatively good at accepting folks for who they are and thatâs great.
A fair few of my characters are LGBT, with Rhaethas being bi and GNC, and my undead priest Muriel Mizer being a transman himself (worlds easiest top surgery).
Iâve noticed that while Rhaethas and Muriel use body type 2 and people misgender both of them on complete accidents, everyone is generally very quick to correct themselves! I donât think Iâve ever seen someone kick up a fuss IC or OOC about it. Either they notice my trpâs pronouns, or respond well to the IC correction (both are the type to laugh it off).
Lleuwen Briarfang, a cis Kaldorei woman of mine uses body type 1 for her worgen form, but I havenât used her worging out in public settings yet to see if thereâs any issue with her pronouns with people.
I myself am agender, biromantic, asexual. Using exclusively they/them pronouns for myself.
Of course thatâs my anecdotal experience! Ymmv, but Iâve been pleasantly surprised.
It is one of those things where it might seem small and inconsequential to some, but it shows you are a safe and its also a very casual way to just help express and normalize LGBTQIA+ acceptance.
Happy Pride Month, Happy Wrath Year, and Happy Gay Eternity.
Remember to support your local LGBTQ+ artisan if you feel like buying something for the season, instead of buying the same thing from companies that would turn their backs on us when itâs convenient, and have done so plenty of times before.
If you attend a Pride Parade, remember to be well-hydrated and to keep yourself safe. Heat waves are rolling in all around Europe, and these parades usually have quite a lot of people. Plenty of water, maybe a couple of paper towels in case the sun gets to you, and sunscreen. Nobody wants to deal with a sunburn, a blister, or a sunstroke.
And remember those LGBTQ+ folks around the world who are still denied the right to exist. If you do not feel the need to scream out for yourself, at least do it for them. Noise is the least we can do.
I hope all of us live long and happy lives, and I hope you all have a fantastic month.