Because people say “I have tried everything” all the time and really haven’t, because they are stuck in a mindset, which might even be quite directly related to the whole problem complex. (Keyword holistic healing.)
“do you think if there was an answer, we wouldn’t have found it yet?”
That is closely related to the naive-yawny saying about revolutionary technologies: “If it worked, everybody would have it by now.”
It is enlightenment that leads to the understanding of what a challenge to the status quo is. Further steps then educate about the responsibility that everybody has in such a situation.
You also exemplify the fixation on status quo authority, the belief that ONLY those title holders are able to offer “real help”. That’s a belief system, too, and maybe that faith in the profession/system can be helpful, but it can also block solutions where no other work, and bad faith put in an institution by many people tends to cause great harm.
Plus, the whole absurdity/tragedy of going on a quest to try and find a COMPETENT therapist, and wondering how well one can judge that or whether one should just be a puppet in the hands of a stranger and be remolded, or just ripped off for profit.
When it is hard to find professional help, then it tends to suck, because you’re stuck with the leftovers. That’s how the society works that produces all the problems in the first place. The alleged solutions emerge from the same soup.
And among those therapists who seem to produce good results, if one is lucky enough to find one, some of those results might be less than ideal, maybe merely indoctrinating someone into conforming with the sickness in society, adapting, blending in.
Also imagine you need help urgently but finding it takes months. So you try to manage on your own instead. That is also a form of gaining enlightenment about society.
And really bad therapists can be outright TV sitcom material. - This is probably also abetted by the fact that you are supposed to find a therapist that vibes with you, a personal compatibility. But this can mean that bad therapists cherrypick patients that they can control easily to mask their lack of expertise.
Here is an interesting anecdote: Do you know who helped me catching myself during a really tough time during the Covid debacle, who helped me gain crucial insight for changing my habits? … A Youtube doctor talking about keto diet, who has his doctor in some physical therapy and sells food supplements. Weird how things go, huh? I had to resort to a clichée like that because going to a local doctor’s office is a constant experience of appalling-level disappointment. So in a way it was self-help - being open to anything out there, looking at what I haven’t looked at before.
There’s a saying that’s relevant: “When the student is ready, the teacher appears.”
(It’s not to be taken very literally.)
