I need an honest advice, I play a dracthyr healer which is super fun and I will probably continue maining it, but here is the thing.
I’d like to level a warrior or a priest to try out and play because it looks so much fun in dungeons and I’d also like to have a DPS dealer for dungeons.
The thing is - whenever I go and play/level an alt, I have this constant feeling in the back of my head that I am missing out things/content on my main if I play an alt.
I know this sounds kinda stoopid, but I can’t help myself. Any advice how to level my alts without the feeling of missing out on main?
I play the same, and im almosy pushing +23s, it has become so stressful it was literally more mentally exhausting to play than relax, i got caught up watching ny Rio ranking and when i pushed top 4 on my realm i was mentally burned out. Then i went to classic era, and ive nevwr felt so relaxed.
I know this sounds stupid man, but you jave to let it go, if competing in MDI or joining a pro league arent in your forseeable future…just try something else, i am mentally more relaxed, im in no hurry to retuen to retail, the game is feeling fresh on era, its fun, the community is almost unbelievably so large yet incredibly friendly minus the barrens chat…literally yhe best advice i can give you is just let it go…your char will still be there when you come back and someone will always eant to run keys.
FOMO is a b-word, but you kind of have to consciously train yourself to take it less seriously. At least nothing else worked for me.
For me, there have been a few weeks when I wanted to do stuff, but just couldn’t for real life reasons, and after that… turns out, nothing important was really missed. You may want to intentionally try not making progress with your main for a week and see how it feels.
Also, for me it also helped when WoW was at its worst state in 9.1.5 and I unsubbed, and in the remaining time I just stopped to do any “endgame” progress, just focus on the stuff I always wanted to do, but never got around to, for similar reasons, like the goblin starting quests, the Pandaria farming and the Legion profession quests.
(Btw yes, I came back right in 9.2 for various reasons, but I had to distance myself from the game to see clearly whether there is still stuff I want to do, but not let the game consume my mind)
Write them down. Crystallising your worries can make you realise they’re very small - or may not exist at all
My list for what I’d miss on main while playing an alt might be…
Renown world quests. Actually I unlocked the last dragon colour this week and I care a lot less now. Eventually I want to max out, but that will happen just by doing the weeklies.
Vault slots. I have two from M+, plus an LFR wing. Worst case I take 6 tokens on wednesday and buy a spark, craft a 418 item.
…that’s it.
If I was still raiding, I might be a bit more driven, but if you are not part of a regular team who you want to do your best for, then there really isn’t a reason to worry about letting one character rest a bit while you play another.
I think there is a tendency (at least with me) to anthropomorphise our characters, to assign them feelings and that they feel bad when ignored. They’re not. They’re all you, they’re masks, they’re faces that you wear. You’re not ignoring a person, you’re choosing which mask to put on today. Pick the one you feel like.
This is exactly what I am considering but the combat feels so fluent on retail and I feel like I want to experience more classes before giving up and going to classic. Also graphics and races are cool, especially worgen, vulpera, nightborne. I like those.
I might give it a shot sooner or later I guess the temptation will catch up with me.
I also sometimes can’t play for 2 or 3 days so it’d be better without the constant feeling on my mind that I am not doing campaign etc. because whenever I log on, I mostly run mythics, it’s just so much fun that I literally ignore everything else. :-X
play more hrs it’s the only advice in this regard. any time you spend on an alt is time you subtract from your main.
i gave up proper alts play a long ago, life come first and then my pala covers everything in the game i may do, so they’re nowadays a relax window where i level cause i like to level, or profession/farm alts.
This is not fomo cause this is not about missing out.
What you describe is the “sunk Cost fallacy”. You invested time to gear your evoker and feel iffy about starting all over on an alt.
Let me tell you this:
Do not be afraid to drop your Evoker if you are not having fun. The class is still in the beta considering the amounts of nerfs and reworks it is undergoing on both specs now and in the near future. There are even rumors of a third spec being introduced during the expansion by restoring more of the black dragon magic to the Drakthyr.
You will definitely be more happy with a warrior if you are performance focused.
I am sticking with Evoker for now because I enjoy the theme.
Edit: You mind want to wait until the soft reset of 10.1 to change mains though. It should go faster than anything you can do right now.
take a break and play another mmo for some time then return, that’s what i did . i was so over excited about the launch that i couldn’t do anything lol i was trying to do every content at the same time then it all got mixed up and i just quit for a few months and came back recently, now with the knowledge of i’m actually way behind many other players , i can play casually because there’s no one i’m racing with right now . but if you want to continue playing the game then just turn the world chat, trade chat etc. all off and focus on leveling gearing your alts
I don’t think it’s stupid at all. It’s the main reason I don’t really play alts. I feel like my time is better spend playing my main character. Nothing wrong with that; you don’t NEED to play an alt. If you want to; that should be reason enough.
I also think that what you’re describing isn’t FOMO though.
What things? Name the things you are actually missing out on, I want to know.
Because there is no mandatory time gated system anymore. No torghasts, no AP, no corruption, no anima, nothing. Only real lockdowns are vault and raid and these can be done quickly for the sake of loot.
So again? What do you feel like missing out on? Ask this questiong nad maybe you will realize you are actually not missing out on anything. It is just a game.
Split your week. Dedicate one or two sessions for the alt and the rest for the main.
If you feel like you are missing stuff with your main, then play your main until you dont need anything.
Don’t care too much about the virtual rewards in-game. The FOMO I can think of that are in game at the moment and that you have to play your main are: CE, Curve, M+ 0.1% title, PVP elite set, Glad stuff.
Don’t know if this is your main and I apologize if I’m assuming but you seem far from achieving any of those so why care about any?
The important thing is that you are having fun, if you have fun by playing alts then you’re not missing anything ‘cause you’re enjoying your time in the game and that’s the best reward you can get.
Its a game. You have to play what you enjoy. As soon as it begins to feel like a chore, youll fall out of love with it and it will become mentally draining.
If you WANT to do something - like level a warrior and priest - just do it. If you stop yourself from doing something you want to do, youll fall into a mental trap.
Think of it the other way around, your FOMO is actually not leveling a warrior or priest. What if you play one and enjoy it more than Evoker?
The only way to overcome Fomo is by stopping to try and achieve everything in as short as time possible to be “ahead of the curve”. If you want to play an alt then play it regardless of what is going on in high-end content.
It requires the willpower to not let yourself be driven by marketing strategy and pressure of performance. A difficult one since modern society basically conditions us to performance oriented thinking. So, it’s more a matter of getting rid of that pre-conditioning rather than buying into it.
i was a GM for a top 10 mythic raiding guild during legion
i have been involved in PvP recently last couple expansions
so ill give you my experience on how to counter this " FOMO "
dont compare yourself to other players, they will have different real life playing times to you, competing with a 15 year old that has no job IRL is not going to benefit you, its impossible to match the time played
Raids are all farmable for tmogs eventually ( you can go back and farm mythic sets pre expacs)
achievements dont really matter such as curve ( boosters have ruined the Fomo attached to them )
EVERY class has its moment in the spotlight, dont feel you need to stay on your “main”
one time or limited time items / events ( mostly are tmogs or non essential things, they dont matter and 99% of the time dont mean anything )
play other games with friends
take frequent breaks, dont pressure yourself to stay on the hamster wheel, gear resets too quick for it to matter
if you are lucky… you live 75-80 years on this planet, don’t waste your time worrying about things that wont matter, like fear of missing out in a game or achievements or items
It doesn’t sound stupid at all since it’s exactly what I’m feeling even though technically it’s irrational. I haven’t played alts seriously since MoP and Cata btw. Blizz promises a new catchup gearing system in 10.1 so we’ll see whether it makes the feeling go away.
