Hey hey, just had a question for all the players with partners that don’t play wow.
Has it affected you’re wow experiencee at all, and if so to what extent?
For context me and my partner live about an hour and a bit away from each other so we mostly see each other on the weekends, and talk over calls before bed. Recently I joined back with my old guild who happened to be raiding this season but the raid is typical hours, so from 8 to 11 and that interferes with me and my partners schedule so I chose to not raid this season.
Which is why I’m wondering if there areany other cases or instances that this is the case or is this rare?
Any past experiences?
What do your partenrs think of this topic?
I used to raid a lot before I met my husband which is a long, long time ago (before WoW actually ). Ever since then I’ve behaved myself usually hehe. We live together, that does make it easier, but I still prefer to stop earlier than fixed raiding times would allow me to, and watch something together, or chat, or just read next to him.
It has never bothered him. I think that may vary per partner, in that sense you’d have to check with your partner. And with weekends being the only time physically together, I’d not spend that time behind a pc. If both raiding nights happen during weekdays, and you’d love doing that, I’d simply discuss it. It’s a hobby after all, it’s not strange to want some time for that.
I appreciate the input, and that sounds like a solid plan, of course it’s not something I ever would do if it would be on the weekends, just curious if this is a common thing for those with partners
From observation throughout the years I’d conclude that while in a relationship, if someone plays games as if they are single, they will run into issues, and if they respect their partner and their time with them, they usually won’t, unless the partner hates videogames or is insecure/jealous quickly.
With small children you can usually forget about uninterrupted playing sessions for a few years . But yeah, even as a partner/husband/dad you should still be ok playing WoW hehe.
An Interesting Idea I suppose, definetely something I haven’t heard before but does make sense, I think it’s a lovely way of looking at it, I’ll see if I can find some takeaway from it. Thanks ^^
Personally I’ve had girlfriends in the past who have been over zealous and controlling with how I spend my time on games, I’m not the type who plays and just ignores them for several days, I’ll drop a text now and again tell them yeah doing my raid tonight looking forward too the loot and usually will post the kills I get as a way to include them.
Though this only works with women who are capable and mentally mature enough to engage and be supportive of said hobbies and this works for both men and women.
Typically I find if you’re with someone you’re both right for each other if you can in fact communicate understand each others hobbies and fully accept them for that, I don’t think anyone should need to negatively remove hobbies from there life if its non negative health impact.
As for the person I’m currently talking too, She had a lot of bad experience with “gamers” typically not talking to her at all and ignoring them for games shes quite the hyper fixated chatter so when she’s not being constantly spoken too she feels slightly abandoned in a sense which I understand is past trauma in my opinion.
I just tell her this is what I do this is my thing if I wasn’t doing this thing on these days it would most certainly be something else its all about setting the stage of the play and giving your other half the option to be part of that play.
Sorry if this was longwinded, I’m assuming you made this post due to difficulties and wanted to give a broader response than just the now and present, Though I hope your experiences have been pleasant, I’d rather see you gaming than getting black out drunk spending money nonsensible for a night you wont remember.
I split my time between the wife and wow - watch a film/TV until about 9pm then a couple of hours gaming. She doesn’t play, but usually either watches or asks how its going. Got a great balance, i think…
There are no set rules, couples figure out what works best for them.
A relationship does not necessarily mean the death of gaming. We all have our own interests and hobbies. As long as you are actually spending quality time with them.
Some friends have given up gaming when starting a new relationship as they are too busy. Some have given up gaming because of unreasonably demanding partners. Others have had to clear it with the ‘missus’ before committing to raiding if they live together. Some couples are fine when one of them games throughout the week but keeps weekends free for stuff with them.
Communication is key. Sort out/agree what works best for both of you.
I’m more of a ‘I’m busy on these evenings for a few hours, but I am up for doing anything on the rest’ kind of person.
This post wasn’t intended to be due to difficulties, simply due to wanting to know if there are things I can prepare for or a common method of either including or engaging with partenrs when it comes to this.
unfortunately this is more why I post, I am an avid communication pusher so I find honest communication key, and she has told me in the past her opinion on things and we even play league together from time to time, but unfortunately this has been my first serious relationship since I’m relatively young (18) and I’m not used to managing this issue and my brain does love to be “mean” lets say and makes me doubt things, so if there was a reason for this post it’s probably that I want to find a way to stress over it as little as possible.
I raided back in Wotlk and cata and a little during MoP, but once I met my wife I kind of sidelined it, I still play daily but I don’t raid anymore, but the other reason for that is I work night times now, and most of the raiding that isn’t pugs are done at night haha
No its telling her if I cant have that hobby I’ll simply find another Imagine trying to insinuate that I’m emotionally black mailing someone get a actual grip, You’re so dumbfounded you didn’t even read my entire post correctly clearly you’re single and angry.
I’ve never dropped that particular text but I’d register it similarly as a guy getting ready to play a teamsport or going out for a night with ‘the boys’. Have fun, go get m tiger would be my response or something similar lol.
I think it’s sweet of you to consider it. Personally (but that’s me, I can’t stand clingy partners) I’d see it as a red flag if a partner gave me a hard time over a hobby, unless they have a good point and I’d be neglecting them for real.
It’s normal to want some me-time even in a relationship tho, perfectly healthy imo. Like Puny said, in every relationship that’ll look a bit different. But don’t feel forced to sacrifice yourself too much in the process, it won’t help a relationship in the long run
Yeah thats a fair point, I appreciate the advice from a knowledgable source. I’ll make sure to use it should the need ever arise
Relationships are unique to the individuals, if you weren’t intentionally gaslighting or it was understood by the partner without causing negative response then you weren’t, all is good my guy.
The only people who can truly judge a relationship are those in it, cause only they know the honest intentions of the participants.
Yeah me and wife have something similar, I spend the day with her, but at around 17:30 until I have to get ready for work at 20:00 it’s my WoW time, I go on WoW, she reads or goes on her Xbox, it’s a way for us to spend time together but also have our own time, the routine works quite well for us.
). Ever since then I’ve behaved myself usually hehe. We live together, that does make it easier, but I still prefer to stop earlier than fixed raiding times would allow me to, and watch something together, or chat, or just read next to him.
. But yeah, even as a partner/husband/dad you should still be ok playing WoW hehe.
