So I am just wondering, how to find people to play with. I recently created tank alt in horde and slowly progressing.
Was hoping to find few like-minded persons while pug’ing m0’s, but rarely anyone say hi, no one says a word during a dungeon, when last boss die everyone leaves the groups faster than you can blink and no one wants really to continue for the future. It just feels like you play with 4 AI bots.
Also forum part looking for players PVE is not active, I once created a thread there to find people, 0 responses.
Forum LF communities part is also not working, posts from 20-30d ago.
So how do you sociallize in wow? Does it even happen?
When i returned in BfA after 8+ years away i went to the forums and looked for a guild. Didnt find one but found the communities feature. Joined some communities and took it from there. Met alot of people through the Scared of Dungeons community (alliance) which led me to find a nice guild where i met even more people. Also met alot of ppl through these forums believe it or not
I socialize just as much now as i did back in tbc, i do it in the same way as then, through my guild (and community) and meeting new ppl through other friends and like that keep expanding on my network.
The way I found my current friend group was by applying to a very bad mythic raiding guild at the launch of BfA, and since then we’ve met many other people through being in other guilds together, or became friends with friends of friends. Despite what a lot of people here might say, raiding guilds aren’t this hellishly toxic environment of pure misery and loot scams. It’s quite the opposite.
I’ve met a good bunch of nice people by pugging keys too.
Most peps doing dungeons mostly just want to get it done and over with. Few looking to socialize in there.
I’d just join any random guild or community.
Doesn’t have to be focused on whatever content you’re targeting.
Could be a strictly pvp focused guild and odds would still be at least a couple of them run mythics regularly.
You can still be friends and do content together even if you don’t have anything in common or the same interests (though you share an interest for wow obv)
Join whatever guild will have you, chat about whatever, ask to join whenever anyone does any dungeons or make your own group and ask if anyone wants in.
Try asking for something but add some offensive or provocative words along the way. Seems to be working. I know why it does work. There are too many people with low self esteem and screwed up perception of reality where they judge others based on - well, who they are.
If you are not aggressive, offensive prick who is all knowing, then you are polar opposite and you are clueless. No shades of grays in between.
For most players, it’s impossible to comprehend that you can be a nice person and play extremely well. When you are actually that, then you are not entertaining enough. Or well, you simply do not go along with widely accepted toxic behavior, so they do not know what to do with you.
When you decide to not tolerate, as I have stopped tolerating that behavior, you pretty much end up with no one to play with and start enjoying the lore, questing, LFR a lot.
im not a social butterfly so i have a hard time finding/making friends. i find friends in game while doing dungeons or pvp and i try/they try to strike up a conversation. do i like the person? yeah? then i add them. will we ever speak again or do stuff together? who knows.
do i find friends in game by the minute or every other dungeon? oh hell no, but those who i find are usually decent.
to be honest, i made tons of friends via the forums and joined communities/discords.
an upside of the forums is you get a feeling for all the people via talking to/observing them for a period of time, so you already know what makes a person tick and whether you like it/them or not.
so as someone who doesnt like randomly joining guilds and see what sticks, this is pretty much perfect for me.
others might be more fond of communities like Zen Horde/Sod/etc, so pick your poison.
that being said, i have a couple of low geared characters i need should gear.
Literally what bukachu said. You just talk to people, add them and run more keys. My circle of friends has dwindled big time in 9.1. Just have a laugh start of key, bit of banter during it. Then a if you need someone for keys add me and hit me up. Added 5 decent people at keys this week and got them on discord, build it up from there.
Or join a guild and try get in one of the cliques, can be pretty tough though. Alot of guilds have there 5 man squads they’ve ran together for years. Main things just be sociable, fun to be a round, and find people same skill level so you don’t become a burden and a “oh great gary wants to do a 18 key, well we aint timing this with his 4k dps at 250 ilevel”. Other ways to not make friends is being a “I’ve got no mic” and being the shy dude that just sits there on disco and types .
Have wondered the same myself. Been lucky enough to find couple of ppl after my friends stopped playing, that actually runs some content with me. Have tried some communities but haven’t been successful of actually finding any perma “friends” out of those.
It’s much harder to make friends on retail than it is in Classic with the lower reliance on others. I tried to reach out to other retailers, but it wasn’t the most successful move, so I mainly found friends in the old game.
Say, when I leveled up my priest for starting out, it was during prepatch which meant easy grouping for any lowbie dungeon.
There was a rogue girl I was often grouped with and we hung out doing Hinterlands and EPL+WPL together. Unfortunately, I bumped into her only once in Outland and never met each other again…
By that point I found a hunter buddy who mainly helped with Nagrand elites, and he was part of the leveling guild I joined. He too disappeared suddenly, but luckily enough, in the endgame, it’s roughly the same 3 to 4 dozen people running dungeons. So far there was no odd one out, everyone was very friendly and helpful, and most importantly, we know each other well, not giving up until we finish the content and sometimes continue on with something else.
It’s not hard at all to make friends, since you cannot really be picky unlike IRL where there’s millions of other fish in the water, and everyone else knows it deep inside - so we naturally reach out to each other. Give it a try…
What other way is there to judge a person…lol ? You judge their character and actions, who they are.
You’re the one making those broad, sweeping generalizations cheif, not the people around you.
If you’re making your own groups, try to write something in the title that will grab the attention of someone who is not only there to zerg stuff down and leave. Can be a poor dad joke, movie reference, etc. It doesn’t always work but I found that someone will often message you in addition to applying and then you already have the start of a conversation.
If I hop into a Mythic 0 group with no description or details, I just assume the leader wants a quick run without much chatting.
Also, I just noticed that you’re alliance and the sad truth is that it’s most likely harder to find players in general due to the faction imbalance, since so many are Horde
Arena is a good way to make friends, I played with random partners from LFG and i now have a battle net full of players that are usually up for playing arena / PvP at any time of the day.
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