As it stands right now, I kind of have my peaceful home in the guild I’m in, though I still have serious struggles within the game when I play with them.
I do get that it’s difficult to put yourself into others shoes, like, I could never understand how not being able to hear could affect your life. But, I wouldn’t make comments like “it’s easy” and things like that. But, then again, I have a little more understanding with living with something like this, so, how I perceive things is different to how some people do.
Edit: I’ll try to explain it a little further with my situation. Whenever I go out, I constantly have the feeling of being judged by everyone who walks past me. I feel they are staring at me, making fun of me, belittling me and being negative towards me. And so, I panic. I start to believe what is said (Even though it’s not actually said), and it lowers my confidence and my mood.
Now, I know all of this is just inside my head, and I know it’s not really happening. But, because of how my head sees it, it’s all real. It doesn’t matter what I tell myself, or what I try to do (From changing clothes to new hairstyles etc), I still feel the same way. So I hide from the world, so the world can’t “hurt” me.
But, if someone says to me “It’s all in your head, you’re fine”, that affects me more. Because I then question how out of touch I really am, how screwed up I really am, and how I shouldn’t bother people with these petty things (Petty to some people anyway), so I go into my shell more and hold down all the negativity, but this just makes it worse.
I know the feeling of being potentially judged, to some extent. I generally don’t like dealing with people I don’t know for that very reason. Of course, when I must, I try to gather myself and somehow manage that (that is where I say my problem is very minor, because I am usually able to get there without too many breakdowns).
At one point of my life I felt like I was slipping into a bottomless pit with everyone near me being hostile, even though they didn’t think so. I have found a very important person who mostly helped me put my puzzles back together. And funnily enough, he can say many rude things to me (he called me heavy recently!) and all that happens is me slapping him. Strangers are still very intimidating, I really go through a picnic whenever I have to go to talk (walking in circles and repeating things along the lines of oh-my-God-what-if-I-can’t-understand-them-and-they-think-bad-of-me) to people I don’t know. Strangers in-game are slightly better, but I still don’t enjoy doing so, unless they feel super friendly, somehow that encourages me.
This is proof that you have no idea about how the human mind works. If you see those who suffer as “weak”, you’re clearly delusional. Some of the strongest people in this world are those who struggle every day, but still carry on. They fight a never ending battle and nearly always win. And when they don’t, they seek help most of the time.
It takes a very ignorant and bitter person to be as heartless as you. We don’t need people like you to give us sympathy, since we’ve never asked for it. We want people to understand, nothing more. We don’t need to belittle others around us to make ourselves feel better, unlike you.
I really don’t understand the point of people posting malicious stuff like that. It is obvious that they will get at least a temporary forum silence. Or is their ego growing from the thought that they possibly made someone feel worse?
… I think people doing that also have very real mental issues and aim to “compensate” that way.
Nevertheless, I really hope that none of the lovely people in this thread will let this prick under their skin. You are all strong for having the courage to speak about your problems instead of just hiding!
Truthfully, I know a few people think it’s something that was fabricated by the “youths” to get attention and that “in the old days people never struggled with petty things like this”
Yeah, I know why it wasn’t “common” in the olden days. What would usually happen is these people would be put into an “asylum”, but some would be used for experiments and other things. I also know that some were used to fight in wars as the front line.
So, I know WHY it was seen as this way, I just thought I would mention it
Yeah, I wasn’t pointing specifically at you, just thought I’d extend your words a little so that the people complaining about “modern problems” have something to chew on. If they bother that is.
Yeah, i find anxiety bleeding over from real life performance expectations into the game.
I want to join a guild, but feel like most guilds just demand you to already be perfect, the whole ‘‘job experience catch 22’’ thing
Makes it kind of hard to enjoy the game sometimes
I had social anxiety when I was younger but it never made its way into video games. You should find help in real life man it really helps. Personally I over came it by getting a job as a bartender, because you can’t avoid social confrontations in a job like that. I felt like my only option was to face my fears head on and it payed off in the end.
Otherwise in the meantime just find an active guild and slowly when you comfortable start to engage with the members and make more friends you can play with.
Pressure in the past was just different, and today we’re able to communicate across the world about it, making it more visible. It does seem to have a genetic tendency too, according to science, just like we inherit many other personality traits from our ancestors.
In my case there were no obvious reason why I should develop anxiety, living in an ordinary family. Yet I got my first anxiety attack when I was just 5 years old. Later I’ve been told that my grandmother(born in 1920) suffered from the same thing, and I am in many ways like her in behaviour/habits and concerns. My own children have no signs of anxiety at all luckily, even though one of them grew up during my worst phase.
This is true, but everyone have to follow their own pacing of it. I’ve suffered really badly during my worst phase, and I had to go through babysteps to reset my body into realizing these situations would not harm me. Progress in the beginning were really slow, and hardly visible, but then I reached a point where it started becoming visible. I did face the things that triggered my attacks, but in the beginning it was in extremely small doses, that grew in size over time. Today I consider myself to be free of the anxiety, though I do get triggered by people behaving in ways I don’t view as acceptable(which means I avoid PuG’ing ingame like the OP, as one example). The reactions I get however, are tolerable. I don’t view them as angst, and I am able to shake them off when I get a distance to it(leave group etc.).
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