Just pick her favourite hobby and say that she cannot do that if you get back together and see how she feels about giving it up, and remind her it’s an EQUAL partnership.
But try and be nice about it
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This is probably a troll post, since we all know that this community LOVES drama. Reminds me of that reddit post where someone was claiming that her husband was mad at her for giving birth at raid time 
(X) to doubt.
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what the heck peon read
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That’s the first issue I see in this situation and say this as a woman who plays WoW, and my husband also plays it and we got no issues between (no arguing, etc) so I think it’s something and you would need to figure out what you did because I think her comment about WoW is the final straw.
I think her not being tolerant is this really. She’s likely worried you could loose the job. Yes, playing a video game has been identified as a good skill but you must apply “with moderation” to this like with other things. My question is now: Do you or did you ever spend time with her in other activities? Because neither my husband or I spend non-stop playing this game. We also sit across the same room playing and often chat and none of the chat is “game related.” Having good communication with a person you’re married to is essential. Just sitting her down ONCE and talking and only about the game isn’t communicating healthily. If she brought you to tears I’d say BOTH OF YOU need to work on this. I’d say you need to close your laptop and go with her to a marriage counsellor and find out why this is going on. I circle back to the “confront her” as the clue that you might be at fault.
- You only talk when you not playing.
- You don’t talk ever when you play the game.
- You don’t ever ask her how her day was like.
- You don’t try to find out what her hobbies are. Do you even know if she has any?
Compare to me. My partner and I give each other “me time” but not at the expense of “together time.” We talk when not playing AND while playing. We know how each of our day was like (I know from how my husband looks when he walks into the room if he had a good or bad day). We know each of our hobbies (we have others beside this game).
- Problems at work should stay at home and problems at home should stay home which is contrary to point 3 but asking about how someone’s day is isn’t the same as unloading a stream of “moaning about work” and if you’ve done this without ever finding out how her day was she might feel like you don’t ever listen to her.
In fact, I’m on her side as it seems you only talk with her to defend why you play a game and play it at work which COULD be considered “time theft” by the company. Time management is a skill and you seem to be in need to learn this. Here’s something about me. I’m a business owner and a book author. I do 8 hours a day of writing and then have a business to manage. When I work I don’t play the game. It’s off limits at such times…
So you need to control your behaviour so you don’t play this game when at work, then set times at home that are for game playing (AND ABIDE TO THEM!!!) and then set time that’s for spending it with your family. You’re not a single person and if you want to prove you deserve her you need to set this as a way you do stuff and doing this will show her you respect her. If you care deeply for her you’d go this route. Use the parental lock settings in the game https://eu.battle.net/support/en/article/32243 and set them up in front of her (with her sister present).
Did she have any say in this purchase? Did you buy it when you can afford it? Did you incur a credit card debt? Did you spend money meant for a holiday for both? If you didn’t involve her and regard the financial needs of your FAMILY you’re rather selfish.
My husband needed a new laptop and we discussed the purchase between the two of us and made the purchase a mutually decided purchase. When you got good communications you involve the person you claim to “deeply care” for. If you bought a laptop three times more expensive than is needed for the “recommended settings” you’re selfish.
There are laptops available for under £2000 cost that can run Dragonflight, and now I have a criticism directed at Blizzard. Instead of just saying “recommended settings” please link to a page with a range of laptops and PCs that “don’t break the bank” so people can get an idea which ones don’t break the bank.
But still I’d say you need evaluate in all seriousness WHAT you did other than playing this game or buying a laptop that might have caused her anger.
(Probably going to get a lot of criticism for my reply but I gave examples that show you can play this game, have a relationship and not get into a situation like that of the OP.)
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Found the wife’s sister lol
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Can you link that redit?
For scientific research of course! 
DIVORSE. If gaming does not affect in negative way your life, wife does not understand, then it is “NOT MEANT TO BE”
Also, man up. You already know answer. 
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Firstly, I would seriously consider you much control you have over your gaming time if you nearly got caught playing it at work. That’s not a great sign.
With your relationship, I would honestly say: divorce her. Not because she is wrong, but because you clearly don’t care for her or your marriage. You prioritised a game over your relationship with your wife and now have discovered that she, like any other person, considers herself to be more important than some pixels. If you can’t grasp that it would be best for all concerned if you call it quits and separate before you have kids. Perhaps in time you will regret that, but it’s only fair to her.
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You have my seal of approval
Probably you’ve went too far to play WoW, so much so you wouldn’t even care for your spouse, OP. She might be the affectionate type and feels neglected, I believe, but can’t tell more as I’ve no idea of what your relationship used to be like in the past.
Which is why I dream of a gamer girlfriend as in that case you can connect such a hobby, and at the same time, please your significant other. Two birds with one stone! 
However, if she’s completely intolerant of it for X or Y reasons, it’s also a red flag of sorts. Loving someone means you accept their faults/mistakes/anything weird you find out of place. It’s alright to try and convince them to change, so long it’s not violent.
The best outcome would be that you seek a compromise where you get to game and she gets the attention she needs.
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How do you know the sisters name?
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I know there is a reply just above, quoting the same part that I do but I just needed to post this again…
The only criticism I can give is that you wasted this reasonable, well thought out response which surely took you a litlte while to write up on what is almost certainly a troll thread. 
I would say it does.
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Does Friday night qualify for the traditional weekend trolling post???
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This is not just a girlfriend. You married this woman, but something has clearly gone off the rails along the way.
You should take a break from WoW and either fight for your woman or decide your future is without her, but whatever end up doing now would be a good time to take a break from WoW.
Dragonflight is NOT even out for a few months.
If you choose to continue WoW right now while you got these problems then you are kinda already making a choice.
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Dont let her do hobby either and it is fair! Her choice!
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Not gonna lie - every gamers need peace and their private game time while playing wow.
They will do anything while not playing wow but when they into game good luck even getting slightest attention. Its not PS5 - its wow 
She need to respect your hobbies and you need to control/manage gaming time.
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Divorce, she deserves better.
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I would love to hear why is she wo railed up about…in the end its just a hobby right? Youre not sitting by the pc all day every day right?
At this point wow or not…no matter the hobby…i feel like its just an excuse for her …just let it go.
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Man the troll posters recently got better :).
If its serious tough, well if u play excessive amount of hours then obviously she won’t be happy xD, mariage is 2 sides contract. So either fix ur play times and invest some time in her, or dump her and go move further into addiction rabbit hole that WoW is
There is no middle ground.
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