I made a thread not too long back seeking advice about my wife not being tolerant of my hobby (playing WOW). I read some very good replies in that thread, and it gave me food for thought.
Fast forward a week or two later, i finally mustered up the courage to confront her after almost getting caught clearing Torghast by a senior colleague at work.
I sat her down and was open and honest, saying that it’s a healthy hobby to play video games even at my age. She became extremely aggressive towards my stance telling me…I won’t repeat the things she said that night, but it almost brought me to tears.
She left me to stay with her sister and has request several times via text that she wants a divorce, I deeply care for her and don’t want this marriage to end, but equally Dragonflight is right around the corner and I recently purchased a gaming laptop so I’m at a loss as to what to do.
Haha, I often do a quick M+ whilst working if I’ve lost concentration.
But if she can’t respect your interests then divorce is the best option, although I suspect there’s a little more to this than I’d described. If she’s just a control freak then you’re best off out of it and pick your life partner more carefully next time…my wife got me into wow and although she’s more of a sims player now she only ever worries when it starts to frustrate me (which happened during 9.0 and I ended up having a year break).
As a trained and well-respected marriage counselor I have studied your post and come to the following conclusion.
Step 1.
Contact your wife by any of the following methods.
A. Phone.
B. Text Message
C. EMail
D. Contact via Third Party.
Once Contact (section 1 and where appropriate relevant action) has been established the following options may now be acted upon.
During contact.
A. Obsequious handwritten letter admitting it was your fault and therefore forever being known as El Doormat
B. Take a large wooden ladle and insert it violently into the letterbox of her current whereabouts
C. Write a particular scathing letter about her slovenly cleaning and have it printed and copied for redistribution
D. Hire an exotic pet enthusiast to unleash a plague of crickets that they normally feed to their pets and have them unleashed through her bedroom window.
E. Find her automobile, open the bonnet, and inside the engine place some cooked shrimp and cunningly place it near the fan air intake system. Next time she turns on the car when it is hot… ooooh baby…
F. Hire a mariachi band to “serenade” her aT 3 AM…
After choosing one (or all) of the following options go home, kick off your shoes, crack open a cold one, unzip your fly and let your belly finally get the freedom it deserves and then boot up WoW.
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Trust me - video games is only an excuse from her side for a divorce. There was something else that bothered her, and she was afraid to say it, so it’s just easier to blame it on games. And if she is aggressive towards you during grown people discussion - do you really want that? One day she doesn’t allow you games, next day she bans tv, 3rd day she bans your friends, list just goes on.
I don’t say you should go for a divorce, but it doesn’t look good, no matter you play the games or not. Try talking to her again, try explaining your stance, etc. again, if you really care.
But should a person really throw away his/her hobbies over a control freak? (No matter the genders, just in general). To many times I’ve seen partners banning other from studies, from games, from sports, from … . I find it not normal behaviour.
