I gotta approve on more loud statements now, having noticed how ERP folks have become more active during the past months. If you go to the capital and the first people who seem to want to get to know your character a little better are trying to lure you into ERP. At least it’s obvious and easier to back off from than when someone romances or just befriends your character, spends some time wanting to do normal things with them and then one night you’re asked to ERP. >_>
For a person who has been unlucky meeting people who value in-depth interaction (even in RP) more, it’s a really tough spot. Whether you do this to keep them around or you reject the offer, risking that you’ll spend another month or two just trying to find another person who would give it a try to develop something deeper, without ERP aspect. That occurred to one of my “romanceable” characters, but it’s even harder to find like-minded chars to connect with if you just look for friendship instead.
I’ve sometimes become even disencouraged from RPing my female chars for the fact how much they get approached for ERP, especially in capitals. Mind you, I aim to build “proper” TRP profiles and usually my chars wear covering outfits, unless it’s for an occasion. On male chars such ERP-motivated approaches don’t seem to be as much of a problem, but you also get approached much less in general too. Even in cases where said characters would be more casual and approachable, rather than repelling with either dark appearance or TRP profile that indicates your char is powerful etc…
On less ToS-related matters, I’d also like to see more united community at large to have better AD. During recent months, I’ve seen how divided this community actually is becoming; there’s lots of talking behind backs of people and covert methods to drive personal agendas, because of fear of “drama”, or intolerance for littering public chats with things some people may be aware of while some aren’t.
In past month within one community alone, I’ve seen people be like “I’ll never RP with anyone from _______ again because I disapprove of their guild storyline”, add some loose PCU references although those who were discussed about aren’t even affiliated with them. But the said guild was providing active RP for both their guild members and the hub they were stationed in.
A few weeks later, I also came into contact with a group of people who seemed to want to RP more together, to the point where we agreed to form our own group that wasn’t tied by guilds. While some of these people had said some bad things about PCU I hear quite often, like “they poach, invade our RP spots and create their own server rules” etc., I later came to witness few from this group form their own guild and basically do the same things they accused PCU for. Most disturbing being their covert methods of recruiting people into their new guild, which divided groups and guilds between those who were invited and those who weren’t, instead of offering the opportunity on the open, transparently. After realising these people won’t respond to confrontation, I just distanced from them and moved on.
But on general level how it’s silently approved on the server in fear of drama and “witch hunting”, it’s still a problem. Like even while people have their freedom of choice etc., nowadays you can’t call such out on the open or you’re just framed for creating drama and slandering. Poaching and covert methods of advancing personal agendas within groups are still a thing, and those can be toxic for the division and confusion they create. It’s hard to see until it’s too late to talk things out or work through more transparent and respectful methods. And those who are unaware who practise such methods, will just remain blissfully ignorant even if said people improved their ways to look better in eyes of public.
I have to highlight I haven’t been interacting with PCU guilds but casually, so I’m coming from more neutral place with this view. I feel that there is a point to PCU and non-PCU arguing should cease as non-PCU affiliated people or guilds aren’t inherently better with their ways. Little may I know what’s been going on on the server before and how much of what I’ve heard is founded on reality. But seeing how judgemental people can be towards guilds instead of individuals who do questionable things, it creates more pressure and fracture than unity on the server imho. And while casual RP is still accessible for many, most people rely on guilds for more action oriented RP. If you’re judged for simply being in guild ______, that too makes RP less accessible and builds more pressure, than RP friendly environment at large.